As I said before, my male friends complain about how hard it is being the guy and fearing rejection. My belief is that part of this is men trying to meet women who are out of their league or continuing to pursue women who are obviously not interested. If you are the average Joe try asking out the average Jane. Stop trying to ask out Halle Berry. You are much more likely to get a positive response from someone like you.
Learn social cues. If you are looking at a woman at a party or a bar and she sees you and smiles this is a good sign. Look at her again and she smiles that is probably a good sign that you can approach her. If on the other hand you look at her and she looks away that is not necessarily a bad sign. However if you look at her again or even a third time and each time she looks away it is in your best interest to not approach her. If you begin to approach a woman and she sees you and turns her back STOP where you are change your direction immediately. She is NOT interested!!! Do not keep trying. You will only get labeled as a stocker.
When approaching a woman to talk to her be yourself. Well for most of you be yourself. Truth be told that the real you is going to come out sooner or later so might as well just start out that way. Start with something simple like talking about something that is going on at the party. Do not start out a conversation with how much you love Star Trek unless you are at a Star Trek convention. Do everyone a favor even after the you start a conversation if she turns her back on you and starts talking to someone else realize the conversation is over.
Do not assume that the more homely women or the overweight women are despirit. Generally they are not. So starting a conversation with a lame line like "What do you like for breakfast cause I want to know what to be making you tomorrow morning." is not your shinning moment. You are not going to be making breakfast for two come morning. We'll discuss more lame pickup lines at another time.
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