Internet dating is extreemly popular right now. There are some definete does and don'ts.
Let's start with the photo. It should be of you. It should be a fairly current picture. By fairly current let's say within the last year. DO NOT post a picture of you taking the picture of yourself. It should not be a picture taken from you computer sitting below you so that we all get a scenic view of the inside of your nose. Smile this is supposed to show that you are a fun person open to meeting new and interesting women, not like you are getting a colonscopy. A handful of photo with you doing different things is preferable. A picture tells a thousand words. Four or five pictures tell more of a story of who you are. We don't need to see your posing in a speedo.
Tell a little about yourself and be honest. If you are 5'4" don't say you are 6'4" because guess what unless you are dating someone who is blind she will figure it out the first time you meet. Tell a little about yourself. Don't give too much personal information too quickly. You don't need to let everyone know that you were a virgin until your 30th birthday. TMI. However as a woman looking at your profile I would want to know that you still live at home or that you are an unemployed circus clown. You want to paint a picture of who you are. DON'T complain. Don't complain about your ex or how much this web site sucks or how you aren't into fat chicks. Keep it positive. If you are physically fit and are looking for someone physically fit, it would be best to say you are looking for someone with high energy and enjoys a healthy lifestyle.
If you contact a woman who's profile you have viewed be respectful. Most women don't like to be called "honey", "babe" "sexy", or any other pet name in the first email you send them. It's off putting. Think of it this way if you met a woman in the grocery store would you walk up to her and start a conversation with "hey honey." If you answered yes, let me ask you another question did it work or work for long? My guess is with most quality woman they either laugh at you, ignore you or tell you off. Ask questions that will help you get to know her better and give information that will help her get to know you. Don't try to rush things.
My male friends complain about how hard it is being the guy and fearing rejection. My belief is that part of this is men trying to meet women who are out of their league or continuing to pursue women who are obviously not interested. If you are the average Joe try asking out the average Jane. Stop trying to ask out Halle Berry. You are much more likely to get a positive response from someone like you. You may not completely at ease but knowing that you have a better shot should relive a little tension.
That brings me to the approach. Be confident not cocky. Women respond to men who know what they want and who they are but do not respond well to men who are overbearing or arrogant. Don't post pictures of yourself in model poses unless you really are a model. Don't act like she would be so lucky to meet you. Again be respectful.
Ask your sisters and good female friends for advice or ask us. Just ask!! Be sure to tell them you want their honest opinion. A good friend will tell you if your profile, email, or photo is appealing or frightening.
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